Meher Castelino is no more. Tough to process this. In fact, I never thought the heart would feel so broken when I first heard the news. I am clairvoyant. Quite. But like always, when that message seeps into my subconscious, I remain disengaged, and then suddenly wham… I get it, actually witness it, some hours, a day or even a year later... goosebumps or a scream within, and an increasingly quiet acceptance, like now. As I write, I think I am beginning to embrace this hushed awakening (!?)
Meher had, sometime during Covid, handknitted a pair of coasters and a hairband and couriered the surprise. This November as I packed up from Jaipur, I specially looked for it and late Tuesday, I went ferreting for the bandana and wore it the whole evening. All of this as she breathed her last in her sleep. I was of course oblivious to her final cadence.
It was not like we were on the phone every other day. I must have met her several years back. We exchanged our “recentest pictures” and we’d catch up every 6-8 months and for a good hour and more, and in between call drops regale each other with the ‘stories’ we’d been witness to, and oh, all the goss too! She had been on my mind this week, especially because she was neither sharing nor responding much to the messages.
Grace, elegance, poise, diligence — Meher epitomised it all. My earliest memory goes back to the buzz and excitement when the Indian fashion week made its debut in New Delhi in 2000. The first ever Miss India, having clinched the crown in 1964, she was a ‘story’ for the microsite on the week that we had created for Indiatimes.com. Duties of the crown done, she had worked her way into export houses and brands, doing “just about everything from designing to people management” as she once told me, and this included trend forecasts, mood boards and more when these were not the givens of today.
Meher Castelino stepped into fashion journalism “by chance” when she was asked to do a piece for Eve’s Weekly, and thereafter there was no looking back. This was the early Seventies, and her easy style ensured she soon emerged as a chronicler, capturing the zeitgeist of her time, from the ramp to trade events, fashion weeks, jury member at renowned fashion and industry institutes, a consultant on the board of many a brand, inspiring, guiding, mentoring and writing.